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Discover a 5-week transformative group program that delves into the intricate interplay between attachment and the myriad emotions associated, such as fear, panic, grief, sadness, anxiety, and anger. My approach emphasizes understanding impermanence, recognizing the consequences of attachment, and navigating the inevitable losses in life, such as through breakups.

Explore effective somatic strategies to overcome the pain of anxious attachment. My program offers a profound journey towards healing, providing insights, somatic tools, and support for lasting transformation.

In "Alchemizing Anxious Attachment," we recognize that emotional regulation is the starting point.  We begin with the foundation – emotional regulation. It's the key to unlocking deeper layers of self-awareness and paving the way for a more fulfilling love life.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, this five week program is about helping you learn emotional regulation to start shifting your anxious attachment, be more present, intuitive, and deeply connected in your romantic relationships.

Let’s take a deeper look into some of the realities of Anxious Attachment and Emotional Tangles in Relationships and how healing your anxious attachment and achieving emotional regulation can positively impact your dating and romantic relationships:


SCENARIO #1: Overanalyzing Every Text Message
☹ THE PROBLEM: You receive a text from your partner, and instead of enjoying the message, you find yourself dissecting every word and punctuation mark. Anxiety creeps in, leading to unnecessary stress as you try to decipher hidden meanings and potential threats to the relationship.
☺ THE TRANSFORMATION: Experience a sense of ease and confidence in communication. Every text exchange becomes a delightful connection rather than a source of stress. You feel secure, knowing that your worth isn't contingent on immediate responses, fostering a genuine and relaxed flow in conversations—achievable through the power of learned emotional regulation.

SCENARIO #2: Fear of Rejection in Initiating Plans
☹ THE PROBLEM: The thought of suggesting plans or activities triggers a fear of rejection. You hesitate to take the initiative, worried that your partner might not share the same enthusiasm or that your ideas won't be well-received. This fear holds you back from fully engaging in the relationship.
☺ THE TRANSFORMATION: Discover a newfound courage to express your desires. Initiating plans becomes an authentic reflection of your preferences, free from the fear of rejection. The joy of shared experiences deepens as you navigate a sense of security in contributing to the relationship—empowered by your learned emotional regulation skills.

SCENARIO #3: Seeking Constant Reassurance
☹ THE PROBLEM: Throughout the day, you find yourself seeking constant reassurance from your partner. Whether it's about your appearance, your achievements, or your place in their life, the need for validation becomes a recurring theme, impacting your self-esteem and the dynamics of the relationship.
☺ THE TRANSFORMATION: Develop a robust internal compass of self-worth. The constant need for reassurance dissipates as you embrace a confident sense of self. Relationships become a source of mutual support and shared experiences rather than a constant search for external validation—made possible through your acquired emotional regulation capabilities.

SCENARIO #4: Difficulty Coping with Uncertainty
☹ THE PROBLEM: Uncertainty, even in minor aspects of the relationship, becomes a source of distress. The lack of immediate clarity on your partner's feelings or intentions leads to heightened anxiety. Coping with the unknown feels challenging, and the fear of potential negative outcomes looms large.
☺ THE TRANSFORMATION: Cultivate resilience in the face of life's uncertainties. Instead of anxiety, you find adaptability and trust. Relationships become dynamic, characterized by a mutual understanding that allows for growth and change without the burden of constant fear—fostered by your learned emotional regulation strategies.

SCENARIO #5: Challenges in Alone Time
☹ THE PROBLEM: Spending time alone becomes a daunting task. The absence of your partner triggers feelings of emptiness and discomfort, and the need for constant connection persists. The fear of being alone with your thoughts creates a dependency on external stimuli for emotional well-being.
☺ THE TRANSFORMATION: Discover the richness of solitude and self-discovery. Alone time becomes a cherished space for personal growth, fostering a deeper connection with yourself. Independence enhances your relationships, bringing a sense of wholeness and self-awareness to your interactions — facilitated by your proficiency in emotional regulation.

What does this mean?

In each scenario, the transformative outcomes are intricately tied to the skills and understanding gained through the process of learning how to emotionally regulate to alchemize your anxious attachment.  These newfound capabilities serve as the cornerstone for building a more fulfilling and secure emotional landscape in relationships and self-exploration.
I understand these patterns all too well.

I've walked in your shoes, carrying relationship wounds like being cheated on, experiencing emotional infidelity, coping with the death of a partner, surviving intimate partner violence, and even self-sabotaging healthy relationships. Not knowing the power of somatic healing tools, I found myself trapped in a cycle of anxiety and attachment.
Except my journey took a turn.

It turned for the better when I sought somatic therapy, when I learned about my nervous system, and when I learned how to regulate my emotions. By healing my attachment wounds, I no longer fear impermanence, and I've learned to let go of attachment, clinging, and cravings in my relationships. Do these things still come up for me? Of course, but it’s rare, and if it does come up, I can now process them more quickly and not stay stuck.  I now feel grounded and secure, listening to my intuition, all as a result of emotional regulation and somatic healing.

Can you relate to any of these scenarios below?
1️⃣ Attachment: Imagine Sarah, who is deeply attached to her partner, James. Whenever he goes out with his friends, even for a few hours, Sarah becomes overwhelmed with anxiety. She constantly texts and calls him, seeking reassurance of his love. This behavior not only strains their relationship but also leaves James feeling suffocated, unable to maintain his friendships.

2️⃣ Clinging: Consider Alex, who clings tightly to his partner, Maria. He becomes overly involved in her life, making decisions for her and insisting on controlling every aspect of their relationship. This constant need for control causes tension and resentment between them, as Maria longs for independence and autonomy.

3️⃣ Craving: Think about Rachel, who craves approval from her partner, Mark, to an unhealthy degree. She often compromises her own needs and boundaries to ensure Mark's affection. This creates an imbalanced dynamic where Rachel's self-worth is dependent on Mark's validation, leading to frustration and dissatisfaction in their relationship.

This program is your opportunity to gain the tools and insights to break free from these patterns, just as I did. Imagine a life where you no longer feel controlled by anxiety, where you can build deeper, more meaningful connections without the weight of attachment holding you back.

The Five Week Program Starts Here

In this 5-week program, I will teach you:
🌟 Somatic Tools: Learn to regulate your nervous system, gaining mastery over your emotional responses. These tools empower you to respond rather than react, creating a stable foundation for your relationships.

💔 Processing Emotions: Delve into your emotions from anxious attachment, including grief, panic, despair, fear, anxiety, anger, and sadness. By processing them at a profound level, you can release their grip on your life and find healing.
Here is the Breakdown of the Alchemizing Your Anxious Attachment Program
✅ Week 1
Understanding Impermanence and Attachment
• Introduction to attachment and impermanence's role in romantic relationships.
• Identifying personal anxious attachment patterns.
✅ Week 2
Somatic Tools for Nervous System Regulation
• Initiation of the Safe and Sound protocol for nervous system regulation.
• Learn about your nervous system in connection to anxious attachment from a Polyvagal lens.
• In-depth training on somatic tools.
• Practical exercises to integrate tools into daily life.
✅ Week 3
Emotional Processing of Your Fears, Insecurities, and Doubts
• Guided sessions for processing emotions tied to anxious attachment.
• Understanding how your fears around uncertainty in your relationship impact emotional experiences.
✅ Week 4
Further In-depth Exploration and Processing of Your Anxiety and Fear
• Going deeper into emotional regulation with additional somatic tools to overcome fear and panic that comes up as a result of your activated attachment.
✅ Week 5
Integration and Q&A on All Things Dating, Breakups, and Relationships
• Reflection on personal progress.
• Strategies for maintaining healthy relationship habits beyond the program.
• Answering any additional questions you may have and providing you with additional coaching and intuitive guidance.
Remember, "Alchemizing Your Anxious Attachment" is the beginning.

Don't let anxious attachment control your relationships any longer!

Are you ready to embark on this 5-week transformative journey?
What is Included:
  • Direct access to Tana Vanessa Espino, MS, BA, LMFT: one of the leading experts in Somatic Therapy today.
  • A 5-week LIVE teaching journey, learn somatic tools for healing your anxious attachment and fears.
  • Five 75-minute Zoom sessions — recorded for your convenience if you can’t make it.

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  • €1400 EUR / ₤1200 GBP / $1,500 USD
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In "Alchemizing Your Anxious Attachment," we recognize that emotional regulation is the starting point.
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