WHO YOU WILL WORK WITH
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My name is Vanessa Espino, MS, BA, LMFT, and I’m a professionally licensed Psychotherapist, Certified Somatic Healing Expert and Trainer, Certified SSP provider, and Personal Anxiety and Attachment Coach. I offer my services to clients in Europe, the United States, and Canada.
I guide women in healing codependency and anxiety in relationships so that they can begin to deepen their connection, strengthen their intuition, increase their confidence, and get REAL about love — The result? Real love, real connections, and amazing relationships. What I cultivate is the lifestyle of positive and rewarding relationships. The one you have with yourself; and, the one you have with others. |
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What kind of relationship are you having with yourself?
As women, we tend to lose ourselves in the relationship by getting into them without truly knowing our needs or wants. When we truly don’t know ourselves enough, we can easily get lost in others — we begin to people please, get too hyper-focused on the relationship and not be able to relax into it, put our needs last, and the list goes on.
This used to be me.
I would jump from one relationship to the next, without knowing what I needed or wanted. (Never truly knowing myself either.) I would easily lose myself in the relationship, to the point of co-dependency. I forgot about my hobbies, my purpose, and what brought me joy. I was too focused on pleasing the other person, that I ignored my own needs. I thought that making my partner happy, would bring back my peace and happiness! After several relationships and a painful breakup, I realized I needed to be alone in order to figure myself out. I didn’t want to keep repeating the same pattern and getting the same results- an unsatisfied love life. I have experienced a lot in my romantic relationships: I have been in domestic violence relationship, death of a partner, being cheated on, emotional abuse, and more.
Having experienced a lot, I realized it was time to go within, and get to know myself. I reached out for support: my friends, somatic therapy, self-love workshops, spiritual meet-ups, & much more. Everything I did for myself was a process that required daily, thoughtful acts in order to heal — by being aware of how I was reflecting and responding to life. From my experience, when going through a break-up or any type of loss, “time” doesn’t really heal everything.
You are responsible for your healing, you got to put in the effort to heal your broken heart. You can’t wait on “time” to do it. Time is just time. It doesn’t hold a special superpower.
